As someone who just recently got married, I completely understand the stress of organizing and disappointment from the lack of help. However, in all honesty, the Mr and I preferred doing everything ourselves, so we did not have to consult the family, depend on their deadlines, etc. Shortly, we did it Our waaaaaaaaaaaay ;D
I think that if you can see things in that light, you may feel better. Also, realizing that family is not necessarily as excited as you would wish them to be is a reality.
I love your wedding collection already. I did quite a bit of crafts myself, including the bouquet, decor, invites, thank you cards, etc and it was alot of work (though hubby did help with the paper crafts). Because our wedding was not exactly traditional (I wore red, we had a civil ceremony performed by a friend, I did not change my name...) , I also founds some great advice on OffbeatBrideTribe forums:
http://offbeatbride.ning.com/
Good luck and use those dolls as needed
Sanja