I am also a college student, with a family, chins, horses, and other things as well. I run about 70 females. I'm not a huge rancher either.
I read the whole post, and I've talked to people who have encouraged her to go to shows, as well as others who were put of by some of her practices.... I've driven over 14 hrs each way to shows, the nearest show to me is 5 hrs. I know it's not always easy, but it's a part of having a quality herd. If you can't see what's out there, and you can't have your animals judged, then you're just guessing.