Please stop stalking my pets...

[Siren]

Not a family issue but...

I met a guy at work who for a long time, I had a big crush on him. I finally got a chance to go on a few dates with him, but he told me he just wanted to be friends. For well over a month, I was devastated. I hadn't felt so strongly about someone in a long time. But I tried to remain friends with him. We'd hang out, go to the beach, movies, etc. But I still had the feeling he was on the fence about dating me. And then it happened, he got annoying. I stopped having strong feelings for him. Which I am glad I am totally over him, but I am so over him, I don't even want to be friends that much. And for a very bizarre reason...

He doesn't have any pets. Never has. He loves my pets. Especially my dogs, and one of my cats. He texts me and asked me endless questions about them....stupid questions. "Where is Lace right now?" "What is Myan doing?"....This is where I started to stop liking him. Because it was all about my pets...not to sound egotistical, but not about me. Like he only was wanting to see or talk about my pets. Which I love to talk about my pets, I will do for hours, but his way was so much different. "Do you think Willow would like a biscuit now?" comes on my phone while I am watching tv at 10PM. WTF? "Do you think Myan would want to watch that movie?" or "How about Homeward Bound 3 with Myan, Willow and Lace?"
He ignores the fact I have other pets too. I have another cat, Satin, but I guess he doesn't like her as much. Just any conversation I have tried to have with him, he brings it right back to those three animals. He goes to Petsmart, remember, he has no pets, and texts me he found a really pretty collar for Lace, "Do you think she would like pink?".
I thought he didn't want me either till the other night when he asked what I was doing and I said I got invited to a party by my friend, Mike. And he was very taken aback by it all. He kept texting me all day trying to get me to meet him...at the grocery store, at the chinese restaurant, trying to get me to not go. Another Mike I know, we dated once several years ago and now he has got back in touch with me and wants to go out. So I can only imagine when I say, "I'm going out with Mike tonight."
I don't want to be mean to him. He doesn't have many friends. I am the only one who talks to him at work. But this whole friendships is beyond bizarre.

Especially the pet thing...
Its all so bizarre, slightly creepy, and ever so annoying.

And advice is welcome, but its more a rant. There is so much more, but I don't want to make my fingertips bleed.

 

[AngelBaby]

Wow this guy definetly sounds a bit odd. The pet thing would freak me out a bit too, it's cool when people ask about my animals but if they started acting like that I wouldn't know what to think. I say quit answering texts when he says that creepy stuff and only answer when he wants to talk about normal stuff.

 

[InkedupTara]

I think it is his way of keeping contact with you, even though it is creepy. Just be blunt with him.

 

[Siren]

Thanks, I am glad others feel the same, because I wondered if I was over reacting or being egotistical or something.

I am going to wait it out just 1-2 more weeks. Mike is taking a vacation in Mass and coming back in a week and he said we will go out then. I figured I will let him know a few days before...when he asks me my plans that weekend and tell him I am going on a date. I have a feeling that will discourage him enough to lay off some of the stuff he does. He's a nice guy, I don't think he is dangerous at all, just a bit weird. But I think making it more...I started dating again and less....you are creeping me out...I won't hurt his feelings. He was hurt real bad before. 3 months before he was set to get married, his fiance ran out on him. I don't know the reasons, but regardless, that broke his heart. I don't want to hurt him. Its not like I want him 100% out of my life. But I can't deal with these weird texts and questions. Least when I am in a relationship with someone else, it gives me a totally easy out to get him to stop

 

[Riven]

Maybe he wasn't interested in you, but has grown to have feelings for you. Not everyone has instant feelings. And now maybe he just doesn't know how to approach you so he is trying to go through your pets.

Maybe suggest that if he has time the humane society is always looking for people to help out with walking animals and stuff and since he really seems to like yours maybe he's enjoy that.

He could get out, meet new animals, and new people. An easy way to help wean him off you and help him meet new people.

 

[Rickman]

Did all the Wackos come out this weekend?? Stalkers from work, sleepwalking brothers, peeping Toms, and now, a personal pet stalker - and none of any of this before this weekend! WOW!!

 

[Jeanette]

No, seriously Rickman... all the wackos DID come out this weekend. I was at work Thursday and Friday and all of my coworkers were astounded by our clients... it was though everyone had went nuts. Perhaps it's the late summer we're having or something. I think that it's just making people crazy.

Did this guy just start this recently? I'm convinced that there's something in the air or water that is making people just a little strange... lol.

But as far as this guy goes, I'm with Riven on this one. The guy probably has developed feelings for you and just doesn't know how to express them. (Sometimes guys are like that).

 

[chincrazy]

I KNOW RIGHT! the sleep walking brother freaked me out!