Missing Thor.

[instrumentality]

Hello all,
Many of you read and responded to my posts a couple of weeks ago when Thor was sick, and then again when he passed away, so thank you for all of your kind words.

This seems like kind of a dumb question, but I was just wondering, for those of you who have had hedgies pass away, how long it took before you didn't feel this huge hedgie-shaped hole in your heart anymore. My husband and I have decided that it's probably not a good idea to get another hedgie right now (he'll be finishing grad school in the next year or two, and we don't know where we'll have to move either before or after that, and whether or not we'll be in a position to care well for a pet, etc.)...but we both miss Thor and the apartment seems so empty without him around.

I know it can take a long time to grieve the loss of a pet, so I guess I'm not really expecting any specific answers here. I just wanted to post because I really miss my little guy. :-(

 

[eroomlorac]

The grieving process is very individual. It may take you longer or shorter than other people. Too bad you aren't in a position to get another hedgie to love right now. I hope you heal quickly and that you can get another hedgie in the future. Good luck.

 

[Vortex]

i lost my little girl last november and it still hits me pretty hard when i walk in my room and i dont see her :tissue: i think about her all the time and miss her like crazy, but i just try to remember all the good times we had together and that she is in a good place now. and that we will be together again someday. :angelic:

 

[Courtney]

I lost Hemi in April of 2007 and I still miss her terribly. It took me ages to come to terms with her death and stop feeling guilty for it. My feelings of guilt were completely numbing and I acted completely out of character for months after (which a lot of people on this board probably saw/experienced). It took me until about January of this year to tell anyone how guilty I felt, and to really start moving past her death. There was a 3 or 4 month span where I felt so guilty that I considered rehoming my other hedgehogs because I just didn't feel like I deserved them.

It's an individual thing, but it helps to talk about it. Look at pictures, talk to him and just remember the good times. There will be days where everything you do will remind you of him and it'll seem that all you do is cry. Eventually, the stretches between crying will become longer and you'll find yourself smiling instead of tearing up. There will come a day when it's no longer painful to look at hedgehog pictures or see them in a store. Instead, you'll feel an overwhelming urge to pick them up, kiss their noses and smuggle them home.

 

[LucksAngel28]

It's an individual thing, but it helps to talk about it. Look at pictures, talk to him and just remember the good times. There will be days where everything you do will remind you of him and it'll seem that all you do is cry. Eventually, the stretches between crying will become longer and you'll find yourself smiling instead of tearing up. There will come a day when it's no longer painful to look at hedgehog pictures or see them in a store. Instead, you'll feel an overwhelming urge to pick them up, kiss their noses and smuggle them home.

Well-stated, Courtney. I lost my little Meeko over a year ago. I still cry over him every once in a while, and can't hear/read about someone else losing their pets, especially hedgies, without crying. I am one of those people that gets as attached to my pets as I do to humans, though. I'm so sorry about the loss of Thor and all pain you are going through, and I will be praying that it will get easier for you. :tissue: