The latest on Lisa

[Laurie]

Just wanted to share the latest on my sister Lisa's battle with terminal breast cancer. Just as we suspected the latest chemo drug, Gemzar has not worked. Her cancer has progressed more. It is in her liver (more than half), kidneys, lungs and bones.
She is still not ready to give up the fight and the doctor discussed 3 chemo's available to someone as advanced as she is.
This is difficult for me. I just wish Lisa to no longer have to suffer. But she is not ready to let go, even though her life is nothing more than getting up in pain and spending the day watching the clock tick by on the couch doing nothing until she can go to sleep and face yet another long, draining day.
Lisa has the right to make the decision to continue with treatment which I understand, but still just wish she could come to terms with her the outcome of her illness.
There is no hope for Lisa with the cancer this far gone, but in her heart and mind she still believes she will have long term time left. I will support her in any decision although it's difficult. This is the time when the family also disagrees so many conversations are cut short as we don't want to say or do anything to cause harm or hurtful words to one another.
My mother had inquired about a feeding tube, but thankfully the doctor said it is not feesible.
His main concern is Lisa's pain and she is seeing an advanced pain specialist and discuss options. It sounded as if they would do a daily spinal somehow which I don't see happening as she can only lie on her back because it's too painful to lie on her side to sleep.
She received fluids today and had no treatment. Next week she will meet with the doctor again to discuss further treatment.
For those of you who are praying for Lisa and my family, please pray for her to find the way to accept Heaven as a blessing. For only there will she be pain and cancer free.

 

[mishellyshel]

this made me cry. so sorry for your family. i hope you all find peace.

 

[paris26]

(((((HUGS))))

 

[Peep_erz]

sending lots of love your way.

 

[Ash]

Lots of hugs sent your way, Lisa. I know this has to be unbearable for you to watch Lisa go through this and be unaccepting of the inevitable. Lots of love, too.

 

[Sandi]

For those of you who are praying for Lisa and my family, please pray for her to find the way to accept Heaven as a blessing. For only there will she be pain and cancer free.

I've been keeping up with your threads about your sister and had hoped for a miracle for your family. It saddens me that this drug didn't work out and that she is in continuous pain. I will pray for her to find peace and serenity in her heart. I am so sorry.

 

[tunes]

Uuuugh - Why won't someone step up to the plate and tell her there is nothing more they can do? (Doctor wise, not family wise.) Why do they keep putting such a wasted body through this?

I am so sorry for all of you Laurie. You, Lisa, your family, but especially Lisa. She's terrified and so afraid to let go, and because of that you are suffering with even more than just losing her. I hope at some point she can come to terms with this and find peace in her heart and mind.

 

[Remyma0408]

This really is heartbreaking. I wish I had a magic wand to wave and she would instantly be better. It's not fair to her, or your family. :hugs:

 

[Chinniechantel]

Oh Laurie, you are so much stronger than you know. I pray for her every day and that she is not in pain.

 

[AZChins]

Laurie,

I am so sorry to hear all this. I feel so bad for your sister and your family having to go through this. Just enjoy your time together and make some happy memories. You will definitely be in my thoughts.

 

[susansheila]

This just makes my cry. Many thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 

[starleomach]

Laurie I am so very sorry you and your family are going through this. It is a horrible horrible thing to watch a loved one slowly waste away. My heart goes out to you and Lisa. You are both in my prayers.

 

[Puddles&Chubbs]

oh Laurie. I said a prayer just now and will continue to do so to bring peace to Lisa, you, and your family. Big hugs Laurie.

 

[mercynursie]

You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers. It is hard enough to go through a terminal illness ,but it is even harder when it divides a family. I was wondering if your family had broached the topic of having Hospice get involved ?? I know if your family was like mine and thought that Hospice was just for people who are going to die soon, they might not want them involved. Hospice however can be a Godsend to any person suffering from a long term illness,not just dying patients. They focus on pain management and quality of life, but they also support continued cancer treatments/care according to the patient's wishes. Even if your family refuses to consider the idea of Hospice, please know that they also provide counseling and support that may help you throughout this journey. God Bless and I will be lifting you up in prayer:butterfly:

 

[3CsMommy]

This stage-- "There's not much more we can do"-- was the hardest part of my grandmother's final fight. Everyone handled it differently, and some of the family took their own sweet time coming to terms, but in the end we all came out the stronger for it, and Grandmother wasn't suffering any more.

I wish you all the best, and of course as always, we're here for whatever you need to hash out in print.

 

[eroomlorac]

Laurie, Lisa will come to terms with it. She just isn't quite ready yet. And I think I would be the same way. I would imagine it is extremely difficult to look death in the eye at her age. How cruel life can be sometimes. I hope her pain can be managed. At this stage I think that is what we all should be hoping for her, as God sure didn't listen to me about that miracle I ordered for Lisa. I am so sad this situation is even happening. How I wish I could bury my head in the sand and pretend things like this don't happen. My love goes to Lisa and you, Laurie, and all the rest of your family. How difficult it is to watch a sister, daughter, mother, aunt die. I'm so sorry.

 

[addictedtochins]

She may never come to terms with it, My mom did not. She insisted she was going to get her own apartment to the very end. Don't bother disagreeing about anything with anyone. Her time is not too far away. Do you think you could post a favorite photo of you two? I would like a face to go with my thoughts and prayers. Love, from a sister in Christ, Theresa

 

[Newt]

I'm so sorry Laurie, lots of love to you and your family xxxx

 

[Sasha]

Laurie, I love you, and I have you, Lisa and your family in my prayers every night. xoxoxox.

 

[Nancy S]

Laurie,
This is the first i saw of the thread of your sis. I am so sorry for her pain & yours too. I will say prayers for her. Sounds like she really is afraid to let go. Sounds like everyone's a bit on 'pins & needles' --I sure feel for you. Stay strong!