Wanting some good thoughts...

Riven · Jul 11, 2010

I might whine a lot, but I don't feel like I ask for a lot, but I'm asking now...

One of my good friends' dog is on his last leg. They are taking him into the vet first thing in the morning to have him put down as he went downhill really fast over the weekend. I just got off the phone with Bryce who asked me the vet I use for the chins etc in the town they live, and I said to call and Dr. Tammy will probably come in tonight for them with no problems.

Brooke won't even go downstairs to see him because he's so bad and she can't stand to see him that way. This is her dog she's had for nearly 15 years, that her dad bought her after her mom passed away. We're over an hour away and she'll be going to bed about 9... my heart is torn up for her.

Please send good thoughts for her and for Casper ( the dog )...

cindyv3737 · Jul 11, 2010

They are both in my thoughts and prayers. She is doing the right thing for poor Casper. Big hugs for all of you.

suzi1780 · Jul 11, 2010

I am sending lots of hugs and prayers for Casper and Brooke, it is so hard to lose a beloved member of the family. I found comfort in this website http://petloss.com when I have lost pets. They have some lovely poetry and a wonderful message board.

Melissa · Jul 12, 2010

I cant see her not wanting to be with Casper in his end after he has been her loyal companion for almost 15 years. I know I would want to be with mine up until their last second. My face my voice will be the last thing they see and hear. I pray for your friend and for Poor Casper. For your friend to get the nerve to be with her dog. And for Casper that he is not *feeling* lonely and that he passes peacefully.

mercynursie · Jul 12, 2010

I'll keep everyone involved in my prayers. This thought goes out to everyone-each person grieves and handles emotions differently.Accept that and know that God knows what is best for each person and all of his creations. Just an example, my sister and brother(in-law) miscarried their first baby. Everyone,including my parents kept worrying over the fact that she wasn't really grieving. My response is and will always be offer condolences and support but otherwise leave it alone, they will grieve in their own way. Well, a year later my nephew was born. I was with them when he was born at my brother(in-law) and sister's request( I do ob-gyn nsg).We celebrated his birth and a few minutes later they finally broke down and grieved the loss of their first baby. Each person handles loss differently,don't push,don't accuse,don't offer advice, just be there for support, prayers and a listening ear. God takes care of the rest.

Riven · Jul 12, 2010

Thank you nursie, I agree. My stepdad's dog had cancer, they did everything for her, kept her comfortable, etc. It got to the point they had to carry her outside... she was a large weimaraner mind you. That's what my mom remembers her like now.... I'm not saying that it's right or wrong, or what I'd do. But when I talked to Bryce last night, Casper started coughing up blood... Brooke just couldn't see him like that, she was laying in bed with the baby crying. Bryce stayed with him most of the night, and his puppy friend Alli laid by him the entire time as well, so he wasn't alone. Losing Casper was like reliving losing her mom again, not just the pain of losing a pet, but also reliving losing her mom at the same time. I've really usually got a tough skin, but I thought it was kind of rude to say that... she didn't toss him outside in let him suffer. Look at any nursing home, where the kids never come to visit because they can't stand to see their parents getting old...

Suzi, I will send her the link to that site. I wish they had a doggie site because Alli will miss him terribly, he was her protector, no one messed with his Alli. RIP little Casper.

Sandi · Jul 12, 2010

Losing a pet is unbelievabely hard no matter how long this pet was in your life. I don't know what I would do in your friend's situation. I hope she gathers the strength to only help herself and not get in a deeper emotional state. RIP Casper.