Update

[ChilliPepper]

Well, Christmas has been a rather depressing event. We made it Christmas Eve in time for dinner. My aunt and uncle, grandparents and older brother were all at the parents house. We had a nice dinner and opened presents, but it was a somber affair because we all knew something was missing- Dad. He is now bedridden and barely gets up. At least at Thanksgiving when we were here, he was able to get up and have meals with us. Now my mom takes his meals in on a tray, and he has to have a straw to drink. The cancer meds are interfering with his Parkinson's meds, so he has lost some of his fine motor skills. I was able to go in and wish him a Merry Christmas, but the words seemed so hollow. I vacuumed the kitchen for Mom yesterday, and today we will do the upstairs. Tomorrow we will go clean my grand parents house, and then Monday we will do Mom's bathrooms and dusting. I have been trying to keep up with the kitchen cleaning after the boys- brother and hubby- but hubby is going to have to start helping me. I physically needed this vacation.
I am going to spend some time with my aunt this afternoon and tomorrow during the evening. We will work in the grandparents Tuesday and Wednesday. It is still rather surreal.

 

[mishellyshel]

so sorry.
i hope you do get to spend a little time with him before your trip ends.

 

[Sugarmama]

I'm so sorry too. It sounds like it must have been a very difficult time for you and your family.

 

[Laurie]

The holidays for us too were very difficult. Coming up New Year's Eve--a night I always spent with Lisa, instead I will be spending it alone for the first time in 19 years. The thing I've discovered is your family wants to be with you, yet being with your family is hard because it's a constant reminder of who is no longer with you. These are struggles to overcome--someday I hope the pain is a dull ache and not so sharp. Blessings to you, my friend, and I hope you get to spend as much time with your Dad and your family that you can.

 

[Sugarmama]

**hugs**Laurie. I'm sure it was rough for your family as well.