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allformylittleguy

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I have been watching this site for over five years, before I took home my first chinchilla. I named him Chubbs because many of the pet stores around here do not take care of their chinnies well, and when I brought him home, he was too out of shape to even balance on my arm. I spent hundreds of dollars giving he and a friend that he did not get along with fully-accessorized, safe, separate cages.

Years later, he and I had been through a lot. I guess you could say that I never expected to bond so closely to my chinchilla, although that seems almost impossible to me, now. He was loved by all of my friends, family, coworkers, and my boyfriend.

Unfortunately, a few weeks ago, my mother tried to go behind my cleaning of the floor behind his cage. He reached through the bars and chewed the majority of the insulation and completely severed an unplugged electrical cord in half. I fought hard everyday for a week to keep him alive. I stayed up until 4 AM feeding him critical care, handing him pieces of hay, and crushing up his pellets with water. My boyfriend and I even took him to the vet and brought home medications and tried treatment there.

He was making progress and was acting almost completely normal, drinking and eating, normal sized poos again. The day after my birthday, my boyfriend and I came home to a suffering chinchilla. We took him to the vet, but hours after he came home, I knew I wasn't setting him back in his cage. I stayed up with him laying on my chest until he passed the next morning. It honestly was one of the saddest things that I have ever experienced.

It took me a week to be able to even talk or think too much about it without crying, and I had decided to try to wait until the end of the year to even think about trying to give another chinchilla a home. Well.. I was given the opportunity to take home a pair of male 5 months olds who seem very close, healthy, and interested in people. I'm not sure what to do. I know I would be saving these two from the quality of life that they don't have, now. They are currently on the same food (Oxbow chinchilla) that my baby had an unopened bag of, and I had already found a bigger cage that I could partition off, if they were ever to become aggressive towards each other.

I want opinions... Is it too soon? I know it would not be fair to take on a pet that I wasn't fully committed or ready for, but they have stolen our hearts. I was afraid of maybe overcommitting with more than one chinnie, but I have never seen a pair like this. I want them to stay together. Honestly, another huge thing for me is how quickly such a loving animal can be taken away from you. I called the vet to see if he had noticed any other problems with my baby, and he repeatedly told me no. After looking up different things to try to help my baby outside of hundreds of dollars in vet bills, I am even more reminded of all the things that can go wrong. I know what is inevitable, but I am worried. Any stories or words would be greatly appreciated.
 
I have done it both ways, adopted a chin right after a death of a chin who I had a extremely close bond to and dealt with a long fight with malo, to now where I am not going to adopt any more chins after the ones I have now pass. I have had more pain than pleasure in chin ownership, 9 malo chins can do that to you, lucky for me I am enjoying my malo free existence that has been three years so I am almost over it. Do what your heart wants, grief is expressed differently in each person, to carry the legacy of your chin by taking in a pair that really needs a home seems right to me.
 
I am so sorry about Chubbs. :( These little guys really do have a tight grip on our hearts. People don't understand unless they have one of their own. Only you can decide when is the right time to get another chin(s). Taking care of two vs one isn't really a big deal. Pretty much the same amount of work.

and yes, you are right. Pets, like people, can go at anytime. Things can go sour in an instant. That's a risk you take when having a pet. You just have to enjoy and love them as much as you can while they're here. Giving these two boys a loving home seems like a great idea to me.
 
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I'm incredibly sorry to hear about your chin. Ive dealt with a lot of pets, so i can fully understand how you feel.

While not a chin, my ferrets fit this category to a tee. Since they are social animals, they are generally best in pairs. As a result any time through out my life when the worst happens, i don't have much of a choice but to get a new companion for my ferret left behind. And don't get me wrong, i love every one of them. They are awesome beings. But it something you learn to deal with when you own pets.

As for if its to soon or not for you; only you can decide that. Its unfortunate, and very sad to say, but it is true that whether they live 1 year or 20 years, eventually it will happen. And you have to accept that. :(

As for committing to more then one chin, that is also for you to decide if you are capable. But i can tell you that i started my journey with chins when my brother asked me to 'watch' his male chin for a little while. That was at least 6 years ago lol. Today i have 5. His male, the female i took in for him, and his three kids lol. And i was completely unprepared for it all, but i can tell you with absolute certainty that i wouldn't trade them for anything.
 
Only you can know when it's the right time. If you feel drawn to these two males, then it might be the right time. Realize that you are not replacing Chubbs, but that you enjoyed having him in your life so much that these boys might help to fill the hole he left behind. You're not going to forget him or be disloyal to him by getting another chin.

I'll always have rats and chins, no matter who passes away. The only thing I've stuck to is that when I lost a specific breed of dog, I was never able to bring myself to get another one of that same breed. Some day I might be able to, but not now. It didn't stop me from getting another dog though. I love dogs and I love having them around me, so I do.
 
Trust your gut feeling. If it feels right to you, then it is indeed the right decision. I bond closely with my animals, but the only thing that helps me with the grieving process from loss is to replace that animal with another. That might not sound like I cared at all for the previous animal, and that I find them easily replaceable; it is quite the opposite. That animal will always be remembered and loved and cherished. But for me, someone who grieves deeply, another animal to love does help with the loss. There is no right or wrong answer. Do what feels right to you.
 
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I also understand. I lost a chin a few weeks ago in a tragic freak accident, he was dead before we could even get his carrier closed (we had intended to rush him to the vet). His name was Sala. I was in shock for days and couldn't talk about it for a week. I just couldn't believe it had happened. Then a few days ago I adopted a pair of baby boy chins, one of which we named in his honor, calling him Indi, a name chosen from the same story Sala's name had been chosen from. I'm not replacing Sala, but giving two more boys a loving home in his honor. Your situation, with suddenly having this opportunity to adopt two boys who eat the same food that you still have, almost sounds like fate or something. Of course only you can decide. But I think you should adopt them. You will love them dearly in no time and when you look at them you will smile in memory of Chubbs and he will smile back knowing that you have blessed others with your care and affection. Denying yourself the joys of having a chin because yes, one day they will pass on, is far sadder than loving them and one day losing them and having the memory of your bond. Don't let fear hold you back.
 
Only you can make the decision and great advice has been given. If you feel you can love and care for these two new guys than I would personally. They won't ever replace Chubbs but they can ease the pain some.
 
You'll know or "be told" when the time is right. I've heard it said in rescue that if our pets that have passed on could leave a will, they would bequeath the loving, safe home they just left to an animal (or animals?) that don't currently have the same.

I certainly wouldn't think anything bad about you if you got the two littles and were prepared to separate if they don't turn out to be best buddies for years. I also wouldn't think poorly of you for deciding to wait, or sleeping on it for a while. Only you can know your heart. :)

I hope, whatever you decide, the days get easier. Loss like this is always difficult.
 
AS everyone else has said, getting another chin shortly after one's passing is completely up to you. If anyone speaks negatively to you about it here are a few possible responses #1 mind your own business,I am the only one who has any say about anything that I decide to do #2 I am not replacing Chubb, I simply share my love.
 
Thank you so, so much! I really appreciate everyone's input. I was actually afraid to check, when I saw that there were responses. I am sorry for everyone else's losses, too. I have been looking through different chinchilla information and things about diseases like malo because these guys are so young. I think that's another aspect of losing my perfect, sweet sweet baby.

I did end up getting the two baby boys. Their names are Ollie and Pickles, and just as I saw with Chubbs and his neighbor, they have pretty distinct personalities. I actually went to find Chubbs' old dust bath for them, last night, and found one of his whiskers inside.. He never shed whiskers. The boys, however, are being spoiled with all the wood chews and hay in the world. I've gotta make up for what the stores lack. While I miss my original very much, I will never forget him. These two already have our hearts, and they are actually the best thing I have to take my mind off of an incident that happened the day after I got them. The next night, I went into work and I found a friend/coworker who overdosed on heroin. I know Chubbs didn't take to me so quickly. It took time and for things to happen for him to trust me. These guys have both jumped out of their cage, into my arms. They love each other, but they're already pretty open to me. I thought I was saving them, but they've been helping me.
 
Allformylittleguy,

I am so very happy after reading your first post I knew you would get them. After all, you said they had stolen your heart. I am so glad they are helping you close the wound of losing Chubbs. I know they will never replace Chubbs, but to hear you are loving again makes my heart strangely warmed.

I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you grow to love these new little guys.

~Shannon Marie~
 
Chin-grats! Sounds like everyone is happy, what a wonderful thing you did in Chubbs memory, We need pics!
 
Wow. I'm glad the little guys are there to help keep your chin up. It sounds like you've had a difficult week. :(

I love the name Pickles. :) We'll be glad to coo over pictures if you get a couple posted. Doesn't matter how many you have or how many years you've kept them, chin babies are always cute.
 
I will post pics, soon.. I have a Windows phone, so it makes it kind of difficult, haha! I've been really busy with work and all that insanity, too, but I've already had them approach me to socialize outside and when I open their cage. I'm using this as an opportunity to try to figure out more about how they normally act. Chubbs and had a neighbor that he never took to, and they had completely distinct natures. These guys are completely different, so I'm worrying about all kinds of things. I'm not used to having two in one huge cage, so I have been using my phone light to peek on them in the dark. I have never seen them fight, even after one steals a treat, knocks another off a ledge, lands on the other, tugs on the same blue cloud rock,etc. I know this can change at any time, but I just knew anytime Chubbs and his friend were outside of the cage, Chubbs would dominance mount and they'd fight. They'd lunge at each other through the bars, if their cages were too close together. The first night Chubbs actually let me handle him, my mother had pushed their cages too close together on accident. He had a little scar on his nose where the hair never grew back, after I cleaned up his cut, but from that night forward, he acted like we had always been best friends.

Are there any early warning signs of aggression? The boys are chatting, as I type this. It is the same happy chirp that Chubbs would make when he wanted attention or was out with me. Any sporadic jumping has never been geared toward chasing it irritating the other, but I feel like I may have noticed Pickles slightly dominance mounting Ollie, if that makes any sense. It was more obvious in the previous duo. Also, Pickles was the most shy, when they first came home. Now, Ollie is more reserved...

I have plans and arrangements with cages, if they ever do fight. I don't plan on separating them until I know there's a problem that's worth separating two that snuggle together and share toys. I'm just wondering if noticing dominance is okay, as long as both chins are non-violent. What would be too far?

They're both standard greys, by the way. Ollie has a grey nose, while Pickles' is pink.
 
My rule for "too rough" was bites that drew blood. I had all three of mine together for a short while, but I came home from work one night and YouBe and Nova had fresh bites to both their feet while Crash was fine. So, Crash lives alone (again).
 
I'm so sorry for your loss of Chubbs. :flowers5:

The new kids will help fill that hole in your heart and I think that Chubbs would approve of you sharing the love!!!
 
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