Quality of life vs. Euthanasia

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ReneeM

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I'm at a tough place right now concerning my 13 year old dog. She has several small tumors in her kidneys and liver that are inoperable. Her belly is beginning to distend due to the fluid build up around her liver and kidneys. She is on five different medications.

My vet of fifteen years, who I trust fully, said he does not think she is in pain, but may be uncomfortable. He did not suggest euthanasia.

She still acts like herself, although more lethargic. She yelps when picked up, due to the pressure of pressing against the swelling. I did not realize this until Tuesday. She gets upset and tries to nip sometimes when I give her medication. She does not trust me anymore, but is fine around everyone else in my family.

She refuses dry dog food. She will only eat canned dog food or cooked meats. She actually loves hot dogs. My vet told me to feed her what she will eat at this point.

He did not give me an estimation of how long he thinks she has left. It's really an unknown at this point.

She does not seem to be in pain right now, and still acts normal for the most part. She has little bladder control, and often goes on the floor. I would not put her down for this reason. I am doing what I can for her accidents.

Several people have told me to just put her down. Is it selfish to want to keep her with me? I don't want to cut her life short if she still seems happy. Her meds run $30-40 a week on average.

My parents are currently paying for her medications. They are as attached to Sakura as I am.

She loves to hang out on the pool deck during the summer. Even now if you tell her to "go pool" she rushes to the door to go out. Even being sick she still does things she enjoys.

At this point I am not considering euthanasia unless she shows signs of getting worse. Is this selfish, knowing she is sick?

My girl recently:

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Being cute ^^.

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Looking guilty because she refused to come in when it was raining.

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Chilling out with the air blowing on her in the car after her last vet visit.

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Claiming my bed as her own :)
 
My vet always told me you have to think about the quality of life. I used to put a lot of money into my chins hoping that they would get better. We have an American Eskimo that we rescued from the animal shelter back in 1998 they figured he was about a year to a year and a half. I took him to the vet for a blood clot in his ear this past Tuesday. I have to take him back Saturday to have the bandage taken off. He is doing good for being old. I know when the time comes we will have him euthanize and cremated. It is a decision you have to make.
 
I work in a veterinary clinic. We always tell people that once your pet no longer enjoys doing things it once normally did, and seems to have more bad days than good, it is time to start thinking about letting them go. Ultimately it is your decision.

I'm not accusing your vet of anything at all, but unfortunately there are some vets out there that will push people to continue costly and strenuous treatments just for the monetary aspect, not in the best interest of the animal or owner. It's something else you have to watch out for. I have worked for a vet like this. Fortunately I am now in a clinic where the doctor genuinely cares about the animals, not the money. It may not hurt to get a second opinion.
 
I trust my vet. If he did not think she had an okay quality of life, he would tell me. He knows I do not have alot of money and would not push for treatment on any of my pets that was not needed. I have been seeing him at least 15 years, if not longer. I actually can't think of another vet I would trust over him. The vet that did the ultrasound seemed to think I should put her down in a matter of days. My vet still saw time for her. She has been with me two weeks longer than I thought I would have her after the ultrasound. It devastated me.

A vet that works under him pushes for diagnostic test after test. She wanted to run $350 worth of diagnostics on my girl two days before her ultrasound. I refused and waited to talk to my normal vet.

Sakura actually just climbed into bed with me, which she loves to do. She likes looking out the window :)

My vet told me I would know it was time if she became anorexic, or began vomiting everything up. He told me she looked good this past Tuesday.
 
I know I've posted this before but put in writing three things she loves to do.When she can no longer do or enjoy those things without coaxing/begging from you,it is time to reward all her years of love that she has given you by letting her go.I've seen too many time that precious pets will fight and hide their suffering because of an owner's(and yes I have been this way before with a pet myself before,but never again) selfishness.We don't mean to be that way,but our beloved pets are so in tuned to our feelings that they sense it and will persevere in spite of how they feel.Putting it in writing forces me to face that my pet is no longer truly the happy pet that they once were and it is time for me to let go.
 
That is a great idea mercynursie!

I had a dog who was sick for a long while, just getting worse and worse. He loved life though, and as soon as I saw that love was no longer there, I knew it was time. My dad, who he adored, came to visit and he didn't even get out of his bed to greet him. Normally they were inseparable during my dad's visits. I made the choice to let him go peacefully two weeks later. My husband and countless other people thought I should have done it sooner but I didn't see it until that visit. That's when I really knew. We spent those last two weeks eating extra treats, going on extra long rides and crying. A lot of crying.

It's the hardest thing I've ever done, but also the kindest gift I've ever given. You just have to trust that you'll know when it's time. You'll know.
 
I always ignore the people suggesting euthanasia and go with my gut feeling. If is YOUR dog that YOU love. You'll know when the time is right.
 
I always ignore the people suggesting euthanasia and go with my gut feeling. If is YOUR dog that YOU love. You'll know when the time is right.
I agree totally. I would never suggest or try to encourage a person to have a pet euthanized.The "three things love to do list" was suggested to me many years ago by a wise old veterinarian with a heart of pure gold for animals. He told me this suggestion after I had my first dog that I actually had from a puppy to an aged senior citizen had to be euthanized.I was talking to him about how guilty I felt for letting him suffer so long-to the point that I fed him baby food by syringe,carried him out and held him up to potty and would literally beg him to eat.When I looked back and saw how much I had done to sustain his life,I had a really hard time with the guilt of all the things I had begged my baby to do for me.I just couldn't see it at the time I was so attached.That's why he told me to make the list and put it in writing.I lived by that every since and have not had any doubts about euthanizing my pets since then.In fact now I am always the last person any of our beloved pets will see if euthanized.I hold and love them to the very end.I have even taken/stayed with other family members and friends pets when their owners asked me to be there with them.It's really hard to do,but they always know someone is there that loves them.
 
She still seems to be very happy :) Took her to the park yesterday for dinner with my family. She stayed in the shade, and the weather was cool. She hovered around the table for scraps. She seemed to have fun! I didn't make her walk very far, and kept her from trying to run around with my nieces and nephews.
 
She sounds like such a wonderful dog and quite the fighter! Again, her actions and mood will let you know when the right time to say goodbye is, but that is not now. Enjoy every moment with her and make her last days/months memorable. Don't focus on the inevitable, just enjoy your time with her in the now. :)
 
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