just a rant...

[Nervousings]

my whole life i have been pretty severely underweight. ive recently been diagnosed with hyperthyroidism, which truly explains alot of my "issues". my current weight is 97 pounds at 5'5. i have 36DD breasts, so my doctor says my body weight minus my bubbs is around 85 pounds, which is very unhealthy.... and i KNOW this. hes prescribed me to appetite enhancers, which just make me crave sweets even more than i already do. i have honestly tried everything.. holistic, hypnosis... seriously anything in the book.. ive tried.
i just get VERY frustrated when i hear, at least 2 times a day.. "you REALLY need to eat something", or "are you anorexic?". ive even had friends forbidden to hang out with me because the parents thought i was a negative influence in my younger years. its becoming harder and harder to not just reply with a big middle finger anymore. its so depressing to hear.. and being this thin really isnt something i would wish upon someone else. i always try to tell myself that the people who say it are just using avoidance to feel better about themselves... but dang... this really gets old.

i just needed to get that out.

 

[mishellyshel]

tell 'em........"I ain't skinny, I'm just smalled boned"!!!

You can never change the way a person feels, the way they feel is how they feel.
But you know the truth and how YOU feel. If you don't feel healthy, than you must look into every option possible to help you "bulk" up. But if you feel okay than keep doing what you can to put the amount of weight you are comfortable with.
Personally, if you asked me you are a dream! Tall, thin, & big ****s!!

 

[AZChins]

You don't sound THAT underweight to me. If I weighed that much, it would be very bad... How much do they want you to weigh? And, is it really a bad thing that you gain weight in the bust area? (Still...you're bigger than me there...and I'm a good 5 inches taller than you!)

I get very thin if I eat a lot of processed stuff with sugar. I eat pretty much constantly or I would 100 lbs fairly easily if I did not! I have very broad shoulders and very narrow hips...so if I wear the right thing people think that I am way too thin. I wish I had more muscle on me...

It really does suck to be called anorexic. I had some ladies make fun of me at Target a couple years ago. Since then I have been making a point to eat every single meal and not just eat a stupid energy bar to keep my blood sugar up. I'm a little hesitant to see if it's a thyroid issue with me...but I really should go to an endocrinologist and figure out what's going on. The last time I went to the doctor he told me he wanted me to gain six pounds...whatever.

About four years ago I gained a ton of weight after I had a car accident...but you don't want that to happen!

Don't let anyone get to you about your weight. Are you happy with yourself? Do you feel bad? My problem with having little body fat is that I can fall and hurt myself without the extra padding in the right places...that and sitting on a hard floor or chair hurts so bad!

 

[Nervousings]

why thank you. i dont want anyone to think i am fishing for compliments though!
i am perfectly happy with my body, its just that other people arent!
my husband has mentioned i should drink his whey protein shakes to gain quickly... but man... they are so gritty! i might try to make a milkshake out of one... that would REALLY pack in the calories. mmmmmm chocolate malt......

 

[Nervousings]

You don't sound THAT underweight to me. If I weighed that much, it would be very bad... How much do they want you to weigh? And, is it really a bad thing that you gain weight in the bust area? (Still...you're bigger than me there...and I'm a good 5 inches taller than you!)

I get very thin if I eat a lot of processed stuff with sugar. I eat pretty much constantly or I would 100 lbs fairly easily if I did not! I have very broad shoulders and very narrow hips...so if I wear the right thing people think that I am way too thin. I wish I had more muscle on me...

It really does suck to be called anorexic. I had some ladies make fun of me at Target a couple years ago. Since then I have been making a point to eat every single meal and not just eat a stupid energy bar to keep my blood sugar up. I'm a little hesitant to see if it's a thyroid issue with me...but I really should go to an endocrinologist and figure out what's going on. The last time I went to the doctor he told me he wanted me to gain six pounds...whatever.

About four years ago I gained a ton of weight after I had a car accident...but you don't want that to happen!

Don't let anyone get to you about your weight. Are you happy with yourself? Do you feel bad? My problem with having little body fat is that I can fall and hurt myself without the extra padding in the right places...that and sitting on a hard floor or chair hurts so bad!

for my "healthy weight" i am supposed to be at 125... which seems like a crock to me. im VERY small boned and narrow.. put it this way.. my 8 year old neice has bigger feet than me. im a size 4.5.
30 pounds would be ALOT for my body. its almost like he goes off of the bmi chart, and doesnt take into consideration how naturally small i am.

i would definately go get your blood tested.. it really helped me. hyperthyroidism isnt just about losing weight. it also increases anxiety, you get very hot, very easily and vice versa, sometimes you can have irregular heart beats as well. th im ere is also a chance that my thyroid can decide... "hey... let make her gain alot of weight now!". keeping it under control is a constant battle... and like you. i eat 4 full meals a day and try to keep it an even mix of protein and carbs.

and im like every woman. most of the time i feel good, but there are days that i look in the mirror and just wish i had a butt, or bigger arms, or at least SOME MUSCLE!!!

and OMG... sitting down for long periods of time KILLS me. im gonna make us some skinny butt pillows

 

[AZChins]

Any chair that I sit in regularly has "butt bone" marks in it. That's how you can tell what chair is mine! Yes, I would buy the skinny butt pillows.

If you like yourself, that's all that matters! Don't let anyone tell you differently. 125? Are you sure? Of course, when I get down to 125 people start asking me if I am sick.

BMI means nothing...if I weighed in the "average" range, I think I would be pretty heavy. As long as I stay in the 130s, everything is good...and I feel good. The thought of gaining 20 lbs makes me nervous because I know it would throw me off completely, I'd probably get really clumsy from the extra weight because it doesn't evenly distribute itself on me.

Maybe we should make each other work out so that we actually put on muscle? That's really the only way to do it...or so I have been told.

 

[Nervousings]

you wouldnt have to buy one! i feel for the butt-less women of the world!!!

and youre right, i would feel so weird being that much heavier... its a loose loose situation with my weight i guess.

my husband always pushes me to go to the gym with him, he is a hockey player for a team back east, so he is at the gym 2 times a day when hes at home. when hes back there he eats, breathes and sleeps in the gym and rink... its too much for me to handle!
i just dont have the patience to go to the gym after a 10 hour work day.. every summer i swim laps in my pool but it only seems to make me skinnier.
although, ive always wanted to try out a couple fitness tapes i see on infomercials, i just cant see myself sticking with them.

 

[kimbt622]

I know exactly how you feel! I have been very thin all my life as well. Ever since I was young I always remember people telling me I was too thin and gauky, which I really was. I did grow into my body, but I still am very thin. However, recently I gained a decent amount of weight. I went to the doctor and got my annual bloodwork; finding out I actually have hypothyroidism. I'm on medication now and back to my normal weight, which is too thin. It's always a struggle. I think everyone struggles with their body no matter what the issue is. I'm constantly looking at my ****s being too small or my arms being too thin. (I have a strangely large butt, which is also frustrating haha) So it's always something! I'm sure you're beautiful and people are probably too insecure about their own bodies so they comment on yours. No need to worry! I'm right here with ya

 

[Olallie]

I was told, lots of protein and weight training helps gain muscles.

 

[Laurie]

As someone on the opposite end of your spectrum I do so understand what you're going through and feel your pain. Weight of any kind is difficult to deal with. It's just as frustrating to be too skinny as it is to be overweight.

If you could find a doctor who would transplant my fat to you--I'm game! I have enough butts for a few people!

What do you think your issue is? Do you feel you eat enough but your metabolism is too high? Do you feel you don't eat enough? I recommend doing the same thing those who try to lose weight do--keep a food journal. Right down everything you eat, mark the calories and the fat and see if in fact you are eating enough. You may be surprised to see the results, but in any case with those results you have a spring board to move ahead. If you aren't eating enough I can give you a ZILLION suggestions on how to get fattened up--I'm an expert. If you are then we will have to come up with a way to make it stick to you!

And just remember this:
Cherry turnovers have cherries in them and they are a fruit!
Coconut and banana cream pie also have fruit in them!

Mashed Potatoes are a vegetable!

Macaroni and cheese is dairy!

 

[Riven]

Have you tried working out and gaining more muscle? Without seeing you it's kind of hard to tell, weights can be deceiving, everyone thinks I weight less than I do!

So many people only think that heavy people have weight problems, but that's not true, as you know. I have a daughter who eats everything, but if she bends over you can see every bone in her back just poke right out, I personally thinks it's borderline disgusting, but everyone, even the doctors, say she's just growing or she should be glad to have a metabolism like that. She's almost ten and can fit into size 6 shorts... finding her jeans is nearly impossible because if they fit her waist they are like capri's... if they're long enough usually they're falling off her. Certain brands are better than others though.

Have they put you on a thyroid meds to control it?

 

[Ash]

Honestly, being 5'2 and 125-130lbs myself, I can't think you would look HORRIBLE or overweight with the extra weight he is telling you to gain. So don't feel like your doctor is just throwing random numbers out there. 125 looks good on me, so I'm sure it'd look fabulous on you if you do gain up to that much. Good luck with getting everything situated, my sister has a thyroid condition and is super skinny due to it. Some doctors don't get that no matter how hard you try, some people CAN'T put that weight on due to their "problems". And peoples' mindsets are that much worse. One of these days, people will stop judging others, but probably not any time soon, unfortunately.

 

[GorillaJTA]

Unless you go to a specialist or dietician, nobody is going to tell you what an appropriate weight for your frame is. Some are healthy at 100 pounds, others at 180. I am only 5'8 and because I am built like a stump (I have really broad shoulders and no neck), my healthy weight is around 180. My BMI says I should be between 135 and 165. If I got down to 165 or below, I would be losing muscle.
My friend is a 96 pound girl and if she gains 10 pounds, she has a belly.
You just can't worry about them. They don't know your habits or lifestyle and most are probably jealous.

 

[Jenn]

I'm not sure how old you are, cause age seems to make a bit of a difference. As I was growing up, I was very thin. I am small boned, about 5'5" and weighed around 100 pounds. I could eat all day long and never gain a pound. As you get older, your metabolism slows down a bit and you will gain a bit more weight. In my early 20's, I moved up to about 110 pounds. Now in my late thirties, and 2 children later, I am about 120 pounds. Personally, I won't allow myself to go up anymore, it's a good weight for me, but as long as you eat a healthy diet, exercise, and get adequate sleep, then you are doing right by your body, and your body will respond with the appropriate weight.

 

[Rebecca]

as long as you eat a healthy diet, exercise, and get adequate sleep, then you are doing right by your body, and your body will respond with the appropriate weight.

Psh, try telling that to my body. All 5 feet, 150-60 pounds of it.

 

[Laurie]

Beks you NEVER get enough sleep! You study WAY too much!

 

[caiti]

I can relate to how you feel. Currently, I'm overweight but when I was younger I was pretty skinny and EVERYONE managed to make me feel horrible about it growing up. I have always had a voracious appetite and I guess my metabolism finally slowed down.

Ironically, once I hit puberty and gained weight I actually did develop an eating disorder, which I was previously accused of but never had. I don't suffer from it anymore (although people say once you have an eating disorder, it never really goes away in your mind) but I was hospitalized and all that fun stuff.

I'm 5'5" as well and about 150 lbs to date. My heaviest has been about 5 or so pounds more than I an now. But I'm the least concerned with how my body looks to others currently as well. I guess it's a growing up thing. Now all I care about is being healthy, which I never really have been.

I don't know what the trick is to make the hurtful things people say not matter to you. Just keep reminding yourself that what they're saying isn't logical. They don't know how your body works and if they're saying something just to be hurtful, then they are not good people. And who wants to waste a thought on someone who's out to cause pain or is just plain ignorant?

The BMI is a guidline. There are several things it doesn't take into account.

Just try out meds, adjust them when you need to and try to find a dose that works. And try to live a healthy lifestyle. That's really all you could ask for.

 

[3CsMommy]

In addition to the food journal, I'd look into a specialist. You're the patient here. You've definitely got the right to ask for a second opinion if you think your doctor is way off base with his/her ideals for you. I've always been just over the BMI's definition of "overweight", but know what? I can hike a set of stairs doing laundry without getting winded, lift over 50 pounds safely and without hurting myself, and I look pretty darn good in a pair of jeans (if I can find them long enough). I feel healthy, if I do occasionally get frustrated with my proportions, and that's more important to me than the odd doctor with the chutzpa to say "I think you're too heavy".

 

[blondeangel]

I have been skinny my entire life - it took me 25 years to break 100 lbs. I am 5'5 currently weigh 106 lbs. when I was younger I got teased all the time for being a twig, a toothpick, having an eating disorder, and one of my teachers even told my mom she thought I needed to be tested for tapeworms. awesome. I spent most of my teens in nice sunny south florida in jeans because I was so upset about being picked on about being too skinny.

Anyways, fast forward to today I am still super skinny for my height, but that doesn't mean I'm unhealthy in the least bit. I eat proper and healthy foods, keep a good healthy lifestyle. One thing I'm told by my doctors a lot is that my eating habits are very healthy. I probably eat 7-10 times a day, but none are much larger then a childrens serving at a restaurant. As long as you are healthy that's all that truly matters...it may suck hearing peoples nasty comments day in and day out. But I am a believer in the biggest, if not only reason people pick on/tease/bully other people is due to low self esteem & confidence in their own self.

PS...I used to drink those "yummy" weight-gainer milkshakes I went through an entire container larger then my head...and didn't gain a single pound.

 

[Nervousings]

thank you so much to everyone! this forum is so wonderful, its almost overwhelming.

im going to add a picture of myself in the end of this post, so you can kind of get a clear idea of where i am at.

as far as the food journal goes, that sounds amazing... i guess i never took it into consideration because when i think of them, i automatically think of LOSING weight... i really might be suprised.

and with the working out, for as active as i used to be, dance 6 days a week, swim team, water polo, and cheerleading... you would think i would love the gym.. quite the opposite. even if i didnt work 10 hour days, i would still kind of have a problem with the gym.. i get STARES. i end up feeling more self-consious then actually working my muscles. ill have to ask hubby for some at-home workouts.

i think everyone is right, that i do need a second opinion. i do disagree with my current doctor, that i need "appatite enhancers"... just kind of seems like an easy way out. my whole life, i have been kind of a sick person. i had Valley Fever in second-third grade... it basically attacked my body to the point that i was in the hospital for 6 months.. it lowered my white blood cell count immensley, so now.. i get sick all of the time... and it gets bad. i think that the doctor i go to, needs to take all of this into account before handing me just any medication.

as far as age goes.. im young. 23 years old. although this has been plaguing me my entire life. in elementary i was called "midget carrie", junior high i was called "pampers" because i didnt have a butt... high school was just bad all around... i didnt hit over 5 feet until i was 16 years old.. didnt have ****s either.
when i left for junior year summer break i literally grew 5 inches, and 3 breast sizes making the teasing even worse! oh well. it gave me charachter and a quick mouth.

thanks again for everyones kind words, and suggestions!
now heres a picture of me..... im really not that bad, and DONT look anorexic! people jsut need to mind their own business.