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Jax Chinchilla Rescue
I am not sure where this thread should go, so mods, if you want to move it to its correct place feel free.
My best friend (who I consider family) is having a very hard time in her life right now. She is the daughter of our roommate (which is how we met our roommate) and a fantastic girl. She is a bit younger at 21 and hasn't made the absolute best choices in her life, but she has taken responsibility for those choices. Here's a little back story.
She met her husband last year up in Michigan, where she moved after she graduated high school (wanted to be closer to her grandparents). He was a great guy and swept her off her feet completely. Myself and her mother had a bad vibe about him from the beginning, and told her that, but we had nothing to back it up at that time. Being as she was "in love" she married him after only dating 5 months. He completely changed after they were married. He quit his job and refused to get another one. He told her that it wasn't his "job" any longer to be the bread winner. She was working 2 jobs and still not making enough for their bills. They ended up losing their home and moved into his sister's garage. Then, during an argument, he beat the living crap out of her. She ended up being put in the hospital, where she found out she is pregnant. During the time she was in the hospital, his family took anything worth money that belonged to her, and pawned it all. We got a call from the ER and Sean (her mother) flew up there the next day. Unfortunately Sean is on unemployment and doesn't have a ton of money. The cost for a next day flight was ridiculous, but she took it anyway (or course, this is her daughter!). During the time up there she asked us if she could borrow a bit of money to fly her back down here with her. Wanting to help in any way I could, I said yes.
So now Samantha is here, in Florida, with us. She went to the OB on Friday and has been told she is pregnant with twins. We were wondering why she was getting so big so fast (couldn't be more than 3 months pregnant due to having an IUD in before that), and now we know. She is elated at that fact of having twins, but also completely freaked out over what she is going to do. She is filing for divorce here. She told her husband about the twins, and he said he wanted nothing to do with them since she is a "whore" and they probably aren't his anyway (completely not true). Then he goes and says he loves her, misses her, wants to raise the babies together and wants her to come back... What an a**hole.
Needless to say, she is in need of some help. She was a size 16 when she got pregnant, and in 3 months she has already gone to a size 20 due to belly growth. None of her clothes fit. I am bringing her to the thrift store tomorrow to see what we can find, but plus size maternity clothes are hard to come by. We don't have a ton of money as a whole, but now with her moving in and having nothing, all of our finances are being stretched even thinner. I want to help her as much as I absolutely can.
The reason for this thread is I wanted to see if anyone has any good condition, size XL-2XL maternity clothes they would be willing to sell for a cheap price, or give away (we would be more than happy to pay shipping). We would forward the clothes to other pregnant women in need of help after Samantha got her use out of them.
I also just wanted to vent about the situation a bit. She is such a good person and I hate seeing her cry every day over her entire situation. She is just so heartbroken and I hate that there isn't anything I can do to make it better for her.
I am very happy for her that she had the courage to get out of the situation when she did. It took a good bit of coaxing, but she finally did leave, which so many women never do. Please pray for her, and the rest of us, that we continue to do the best things we can for her and the babies. Also, if anyone has any advice for me, please give it. I've never been in this situation before so I don't always know what to say to her.
My best friend (who I consider family) is having a very hard time in her life right now. She is the daughter of our roommate (which is how we met our roommate) and a fantastic girl. She is a bit younger at 21 and hasn't made the absolute best choices in her life, but she has taken responsibility for those choices. Here's a little back story.
She met her husband last year up in Michigan, where she moved after she graduated high school (wanted to be closer to her grandparents). He was a great guy and swept her off her feet completely. Myself and her mother had a bad vibe about him from the beginning, and told her that, but we had nothing to back it up at that time. Being as she was "in love" she married him after only dating 5 months. He completely changed after they were married. He quit his job and refused to get another one. He told her that it wasn't his "job" any longer to be the bread winner. She was working 2 jobs and still not making enough for their bills. They ended up losing their home and moved into his sister's garage. Then, during an argument, he beat the living crap out of her. She ended up being put in the hospital, where she found out she is pregnant. During the time she was in the hospital, his family took anything worth money that belonged to her, and pawned it all. We got a call from the ER and Sean (her mother) flew up there the next day. Unfortunately Sean is on unemployment and doesn't have a ton of money. The cost for a next day flight was ridiculous, but she took it anyway (or course, this is her daughter!). During the time up there she asked us if she could borrow a bit of money to fly her back down here with her. Wanting to help in any way I could, I said yes.
So now Samantha is here, in Florida, with us. She went to the OB on Friday and has been told she is pregnant with twins. We were wondering why she was getting so big so fast (couldn't be more than 3 months pregnant due to having an IUD in before that), and now we know. She is elated at that fact of having twins, but also completely freaked out over what she is going to do. She is filing for divorce here. She told her husband about the twins, and he said he wanted nothing to do with them since she is a "whore" and they probably aren't his anyway (completely not true). Then he goes and says he loves her, misses her, wants to raise the babies together and wants her to come back... What an a**hole.
Needless to say, she is in need of some help. She was a size 16 when she got pregnant, and in 3 months she has already gone to a size 20 due to belly growth. None of her clothes fit. I am bringing her to the thrift store tomorrow to see what we can find, but plus size maternity clothes are hard to come by. We don't have a ton of money as a whole, but now with her moving in and having nothing, all of our finances are being stretched even thinner. I want to help her as much as I absolutely can.
The reason for this thread is I wanted to see if anyone has any good condition, size XL-2XL maternity clothes they would be willing to sell for a cheap price, or give away (we would be more than happy to pay shipping). We would forward the clothes to other pregnant women in need of help after Samantha got her use out of them.
I also just wanted to vent about the situation a bit. She is such a good person and I hate seeing her cry every day over her entire situation. She is just so heartbroken and I hate that there isn't anything I can do to make it better for her.
I am very happy for her that she had the courage to get out of the situation when she did. It took a good bit of coaxing, but she finally did leave, which so many women never do. Please pray for her, and the rest of us, that we continue to do the best things we can for her and the babies. Also, if anyone has any advice for me, please give it. I've never been in this situation before so I don't always know what to say to her.
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