Heart broken

[ruoc]

:cry3: Hey everyone, well so much for our new house. After they accepted our offer, I was sooo happy I couldn't sleep all night. I went to work the next day, and told my friends about it and everyone was so happy for us. Then my husband called before I left and told me he was going to back out of the deal. He said he thought it was suspicious that someone just happened to be making an offer on the same day as us after 2 months of no one making any offers, and he thought the real estate agent was lying to get more money. I felt like someone just punched me. When I got home I was furious. My husband said we offered too much for the house, because we also need to make some repairs and redo some of the inside and that by the time you total all that up you could by a better house that doesn't need any work. What upsets me is that if that's the way he felt, why in the world would he offer more money to get the house. It would be much easier to deal with the fact that some one made a better offer than to think I was getting a house that I really fell in love with and someone says no you can't have it after all. I'm still very upset about this whole thing but my husband says I'm over reacting. I shouldn't be upset, and just pretend it didn't happen. I've tried to tell myself it's just a house and it doesn't matter, but it was the first house I've gone into and I could picture my kids there, being happy. I just don't get why he would make that last offer, when he knew he didn't want to go that high. He knew right from the first time he looked at it that the house needed some work. He even knew how much he wanted to offer for it. I haven't slept much over the past couple of days and I have a perma headache. AAAGGGHHHHH!!!!!!! This has been way more stressful then it needed to be!:hair::hair:

 

[mishellyshel]

sorry. but sometimes these things happen for a reason and the next house you make an offer for in a price range that is reasonable for your budget will be THE perfect one!

buying a house is one of the biggest purchases you will ever make and sounds like he was just going with his gut feeling. it will be fine. take a deep breath and start the weekend off happy and on the hunt for a new home!

 

[Riven]

If you really like the house, retract the offer and revise it to include them doing the necessary repairs for the same amount.

Even if there was another offer they might have made it really low.. It's not unusual for a house to go two months with no offers, the housing market is in the hole almost nationwide. Offer what you think it's worth, and if you don't get it, you don't get it.

 

[ruoc]

You are right, I just had to get over myself. Hubby had good reasons for backing out of the deal. We still have our old house and a healthy family, so there's nothing to be upset about. Thanks for listening to my crazy rant though, I'm over it now, silly me.

 

[VolunteerChin22]

Buying a house is stressful - it's an emotional rollercoaster - you dont get the one you want, you dont get the price you want, you dont close on time, your appraisal comes back bad - its all full of heartaches and headaches:banghead: BUT when you finally do get the keys you will be so happy you wont remember all of that and 3 months into the new house you will be like ugh im so glad we didnt get that other one

 

[ruoc]

Your right, I just needed to take a deep breath and step back for a bit. The house we live in now is paid for and with three kids starting university or college in the next 2 to 4 years, we really don't need to be making payments that we don't have to make, and there's no reason not to continue building up our savings for the future. Sometimes you just get carried away by things, that's why it's good that hubby is so practical, cause I'm sure not. lol

 

[Riven]

Why not remodel the house you currently have to what you want? Might be cheaper and you won't have to pack or unpack! But if you want to... you still can. Might clear out a lot of clutter that way!

 

[ruoc]

That's a good idea, and it would absolutely be cheaper. I've always wanted hardwood in here, and new kitchen cabinets and counters. New sinks in the bathroom too. Maybe a new shower......hmmmmm.... now I'm really thinking lol A trip to home depot may be coming up shortly.