bigtime parent oops!

[Jenn]

Hubby and I had a bigtime parent oops! We decided to get intimate before he had to leave for work yesterday morning...and supposedly the kids were still asleep. We were caught in the act by my 9 year old who promptly ran to go tell my 11 year old that "mom and dad are doing it!". This got my 11 year old out of bed who had to come check it out for himself. OMG! Of course we quickly came up with a story that we were just wrestling and hugging before daddy had to leave for work...Later that day my 11 year old came up and touched my belly and asked me if my egg was ready to be born! How embarrassing! Again, I told him that all mom and dad were doing was goofing around and that he sure was silly! Do you think he bought it???? We've always been so careful, I can't believe we got caught!!! That is not how I want to teach my kids about the birds and the bees!:banghead: Am I alone with this oops, or is there anyone else that has had this happen? Please tell me I am not a bad parent :tantrum:

 

[AZChins]

They'll forget, don't worry. That's horrible that the 9 year old said that... When I was 9 I would have had no clue of what was going on. In fact, I remember when I was really little having my parents yell at me to not turn on the lights and then wondering why my mommy didn't have her nightgown on when she went to take me back to bed.

It's okay...you didn't screw them up too bad. You are not a bad parent. I'm actually surprised that you were able to make it a decade with these kids without being caught before! I'm sure that they sort of bought the story of you just wrestling and goofing around...and they'll forget about it soon.

Why would your 11 year old ask if the egg was ready to be born? That would make me turn bright red!! In January I had someone else's kid ask me if I was going to have a baby and I think I probably turned bright red as I tried to say no...

 

[Laurie]

OMG! I'm sorry Jenn but this made me laugh my butt off! First of all, of course you're not a bad parent, you are an amazing mom! Second of all morning sex is icky Jenn--quit doing it lol! I don't think it's embarassing at all that your 11 years knew that an egg is what makes a baby--this is a good thing. When I found out babies came from eggs I looked in the refrigerator and sort of freaked out, until I learned it wasn't an "egg" egg.

I could suggest a lock for your bedroom door . . .

 

[Jenn]

lol, Laurie, we do have a lock for the bedroom door...I guess we were too spontaneous to think to use it!

We have had some simple sex talks since the kids have seen stuff on tv and heard things at school. But I never imagined I would teach them first hand!

We made it through today (the day after) and the kids haven't mentioned it. So hopefully we haven't scarred them for life! lol. Me, thinking about my parents having sex...oooh yuck!!!

 

[Melissa]

Just wait until you get a phone call from school because one of them drew a picture of you guys. Or because they told everyone.

I remember being really little and walking in on my parents. I always got yelled at. So I picked up the phone one day and called both grandmas and told them what my parents were doing. I was 6. I turned out pretty ok... I guess.

 

[mercynursie]

:rofl::rofl:I had not suffered any mental damage until reading this post that caused me to recall my trauma as a child!! I spot lighted(put the flashlight on for those of you non country/hunting folks) my parents during one of my middle of the night bathroom trips at a very young age.Not long after that I was told that I was a big girl now and didn't need a flashlight to go potty at night.It was a few years before I realized what I had done and was able to completely suppress that memory.Now,thanks to your post, I have to get counseling to recover from this childhood trauma!!:laughitup:

 

[chinsmom]

:rofl:OOPS!! No, you're not a bad mommy at all. I'm not surprised at all about the way your 9 year old told your 11 year old either - some of the stuff that comes out of my 8 year old's mouth when she gets home from school just about makes me swallow my toungue, and there are constant grammar as well as "good thing, bad thing to say" mini lessons. It's a different world out there than when we were coming up. I don't think though, that you've overly traumatized your kids either - I'd be willin' to bet that they already know a lot more than you realize (or than you might hope). Don't sweat it, there is no permanent damage:wink2:. Ok, that being said, Y'ALL BETTER STOP THAT, OR YOU'LL GO BLIND!!!!:rofl::hilarious:

 

[Riven]

Not bad parenting. But I would have a serious talk with your kids. If they saw you doing it, and you tell them you're "just wrestling" they may think that it's okay to wrestle like that too...

The only reason sex is traumatizing to kids is because society makes it that way. Think about the animal world, a chins don't say hey.. the kits are here can we do this some other time. Because it's a natural part of life. I'd take this opportunity to do a full blown education for them and explain that it's normal in a healthy relationship to have sex. They know a lot more than what you've taught them, and a lot more than you think they do.

Chances are you are the talk of the playground right now... and the other kids are going to want details of what was going on, because kids are curious, which is why it's better to teach them young, then let them find out on their own and find out your 12 or 13 year old is not a parent.

 

[lauralynne]

OMG, Jenn, I feel your pain. Hubby and I slept in the basement for a while since he seemed to sleep better on the bed down there. One Saturday early afternoon, we were down there and the oldest came down, and Nick shouted at her to go upstairs. Well, after that, all she could talk about was daddy was naked and "wiggling" and how inappropriate that was. :embarrassed:

 

[mishellyshel]

jenn--so sorry i had to laugh on your behalf.....

and as usual i have to agree with EVERYTHING Laurie said!!!

i doubt they will ever forget the memory of seeing you guys, but they probably wont remember any specifics.
when i was young i saw my parents.....i didnt see anything but i remember "catching" them.

they may not bring it up to your because they are embarrassed, so if you want to clear the air than you are going to have to initiate the conversation.

 

[Jenn]

I agree with some of the above posts and it is time to have a more indepth conversation about sex. We have had some conversations already, that is why my son asked about my egg and is it ready to be born...5th grade has been a terrible year with kids at the playground talking about sex, swearing, and bullying. So it is incredible how much a kid "knows" at this age. It was semi-dark when we were caught, that's why I'm hoping I can get away with the wrestling explanation...we all do a lot of playfighting and wrestling. But we had been thinking of sitting my 11 year old down and going over everything...not sure if I should include the 9 year old in the conversation, tho. At least this reminds us clearly that we have to be more careful, lol

 

[Hope]

Jenn
That is too funny. We haven't had that happen yet but I did have to explain the 'facts of life' to my 10 year old daughter this week. She didn't want to know at all but since they were covering it at school I wanted her to hear it from me first. After trying to explain it using "mommys and daddys" I gave up after she had her fingers in her ears saying "I don't want to know, I don't want to know!" So then I explained it using Chloe and Chef (our chins) which she was fine with. Chins to the rescue again! Now I just need to explain that that's not just how baby chins (or babies in general) are made but that's also how mommy gets daddy to mow the lawn...
Hope
x

 

[Laurie]

Jenn the only words of wisdom I can offer are these--be as honest as you can. When my parents gave us the talk my mom referred to it as joining together and said a man and woman will join together to make a baby. Since we all knew dad had surgery to stop babies from happening Lisa made the comment one day when she and mom were driving in the car that mom and dad don't join together anymore because dad couldn't make babies--mom drove off the road! She didn't quite know how to answer that one.

My mom is a nurse so we learned all about eggs and sperm and she was even honest with all of us girls and told us you don't have to be married to "join together" and you don't even have to be in love to "join together" but she explained clearly it was a special gift that should be shared between two people who love each other very much.

Maybe that's where I went wrong! I only "joined together" with men I loved but who were jerks! I should have been "joining" with complete strangers I guess LOL!