I an new to the board but not to hedgies. Until your hedgehog is your friend he is not going to want to be stroked. Get a bit of fleece and sleep with it and put it in his cage so he can get used to your sent. Also just getting him out and placing him in a snuggle bag on your lap and watching TV every night will help him get used to you. Since he is not in a boll of spikes you should be able to pick him up, by placing your hand flat next to him palm up and scoping him up. Also some hedgies just don't want to be pet